Kelly Kintner - Blog

As a kid in church in the South.

When I was a kid, I sang at church with Mom a lot. They had this saying about no one at home listening, “Even Jesus had to skip his hometown.” I’ve thought about that since I was a boy, and how true it is. I’ve come up with and found some analogies on it I would like to share, should you wonder too.

This old costume

Hometowns often see you like you were years ago. They do not allow for growth. Many times I’ve heard musicians say, “It is Halloween and I get to wear my 5-year-old costume.” In order to get that Halloween show, that musician has to be who they were years ago. That is not fun for a lot of us who like growth. So showing our new costumes online helps.

Ancient tree in the backyard

I’ve heard an analogy involving an old-growth tree by itself in the backyard not being as cool as in an ancient forest. I don’t really like this one as much because I would think that tree in my backyard was amazing. I get what folks are saying here. But I bet they don’t have old-growth trees in their yard.

Big fish/small pond

I like the big fish in a small pond analogy. Once you play every venue in town a couple of times, what else are you going to do? Most towns in the world don’t have the resources to support a healthy music scene. Mentally or financially, folks are stressed. They can only give so much. That kid they watched grow up playing guitar does not compete with the things on their mind. 

Digital vs Analog

My favorite analogy of being a musician in your hometown has to do with digital and analog. Folks online, on socials, get the digital you. That’s usually a better sell. The digital you doesn’t need food, have hygiene issues, talk too loud, or barely speak. The digital you isn’t obnoxious, doesn’t grind his jaw, doesn’t talk about everything on your mind. Folks at home aren’t given the same deal. They get the analog you that whines, or stinks it up in the bathroom, or eats the last of the cake.  It is possible it isn’t even right to expect the same from each crowd; they get different things from you. Why should they give the same back?

What can we do?

Not much. The thing is, this is so old, it is probably human nature. There’s not a realistic way to change that for everyone. But there are realistic ways to change it in ourselves. I keep saying “music is an inside job.” This is one of the ways I mean that. We can give ourselves what we need from the music we make. If we are able to do that, then we can tell folks how cool it is and be honest about it instead of hoping for their validation for it. How?

For me, I have to get away from most everything. People and noise don’t bother me, but I find them terribly distracting. If I am going to think up something I think is cool and go through the trouble of crafting that, I need to be alone. At least in the beginning stages. If I am to craft something I love first before anyone else loves it, I have to be there when it is crafted. If I am somewhere else, it doesn’t work. I need the moment when it comes together and I think it is rad. If I deprive myself of that, I can’t tell other folks I think it is rad. Important here, for me: I struggled forever, most of my life, in trying to make songs I’d guess folks liked. I no longer do this. I try to make songs I like. Then all I have to do is tell folks I like them. They can agree with my taste in music or not. But it doesn’t let me down, either way.

Also, if no one comes to my show, I am still there. It does not make sense to sit there and play songs I don’t even like for an empty house. If I like them, at least I get to play them. 

The Listener

I talk about “the listener” a lot. I am not averaging out folks who have heard my songs and spitting out lines. I am talking about me. Before I ever played a note, I enjoyed listening to them. I am a listener, first. I learn from every progression on the radio, all three of them. I pretended to be Neil Diamond in diapers, had a tennis racket guitar, I am a listener. I run across peeps who play all the time, but never listen. People know if you listen. If you think they don’t, they probably aren’t listening to you either. It’s wonderful to listen to music, conversations, street noises, even alarm clocks. There are songs in all of that. If you identify with them, someone else will too. Maybe more than a desire to be famous, a desire to make something you honestly love is what’s needed in your artistic career. Don’t pick it or its components from a menu. Craft that shit.

Build. Don’t just take. 

Is this going to help you in your hometown? Probably not. But if you learn music or art, that will probably help your hometown in some way. If you just guess what they want on weekends, you’re really throwing darts. Tell those folks what’s cool. Research it, learn some skills, show up, and put it together. That’s not throwing darts. That’s foundation work.

Kelly Kintner

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